Dating in your late 2039s
While it’s important to be patient when getting to know someone, you don’t have to waste time in the wrong relationship.Be clear about what you’re looking for in a relationship from the beginning.Why would they like someone who, if she can still have children, would need to have them straight away?
‘If a guy is going out with a woman in her late 30s, it is hardly going to be a surprise that she might also want children.’With that in mind, I decided to be honest about my desire for marriage and children — with surprising results.Even before you start dating again, think about what you want. They’ll be there to encourage you when you’re discouraged and to rejoice with you when love comes around. You may not like the toll time — and gravity — has taken on your body, but what about yourself do you still love?Be specific about what you’re looking for — and who you are — on your dating profile. Trying to be someone you’re not will only hurt you in the long run. Boost your confidence by dressing to enhance your favorite features. Kids are often a factor when dating in your forties.I turned up a few minutes late for one date to find that the guy had already ordered and eaten dinner without me, and I booked myself on a climbing holiday with 14 fit men, only to discover halfway up the highest mountain in North Africa that they were all married.While I did meet some really nice men, it was certainly not at the tortuous round of singles events, at which there were always more women than men and everyone had a sad, resigned look in their eyes.He was 41, adventurous and enjoyed travelling — as do I.His emails were fun and witty and when we first met for a lunch date we left the pub at 6pm, always a good sign. My friends liked him and I couldn’t believe I’d found someone at last.If you’re coming out of a marriage or long-term relationship, don’t rush back into dating if you’re not emotionally ready for someone new.To date successfully you can’t be holding your dinner companion responsible for the sins of an ex.Give your date a fair chance, not comparing him to those who’ve come before. Try not to rush the get-to-know-each-other process.It can take a few dates to know if there’s potential for something to develop between two people.